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October 13, 2024

How to overcome feelings of isolation when leading remotely

My top 10 tips from competing in the Vendée Globe

Dealing with Isolation

Article first published in Yachting Monthly

I've never been one for spending time alone as I do enjoy sailing as a team, however the Vendée Globe is the pinnacle of offshore sailing, one of the sports Holy Grails and my goal was to become one of only a handful of British sailors to complete.

Learning to sail solo is a huge challenge because it's a mental game. The Vendée Globe is the only single-handed non-stop and unassisted round the world race that lasts over three months. Prior to the Vendée, the longest I had spent alone at sea was just 10 days.

The Covid Pandemic forced many of us into long down and for some an acute period of isolation. It also changed our work habits for ever, as we learnt how to remote work, using vastly improved technology to help us feel more connected to the office environment.

Now we are all enjoying the benefits of hybrid and remote working, but there are still some of us that struggle not being in direct contact with friends, family and work colleagues.

Here are a few tips that I learnt during the Vendée Globe

1. Build a strong network around you

That first night it really hit me. I’d made a great start, rounded the final turning mark off Les Sables d’Olonne inside the top ten and was now reaching at high speed towards Cape Finisterre. I was suddenly in floods of tears, sobbing irrationally, feeling overwhelmed from the day’s earlier activities. You see, I’d just said goodbye to my family and loved ones, before being towed out of the harbour where thousands of people had lined the pier to say ‘au revoir’. Now, cocooned in my little boat, I suddenly felt very alone. Ahead of me lay three months of isolation. From here on I would only have one phone call each day to my team ashore and Vikki, my wife. The rules of the Vendée Globe, offshore racing’s premier sailing event are stark – no outside assistance, no stopping, alone.

When asked if I enjoy the isolation of single-handed sailing, I always reply yes, but only if I have a good team of people around me. We are not solitary beings, most people can’t imagine a period of their lives without daily contact and nor can solo sailors. That’s probably why there are only twelve British sailors that have completed the Vendée Globe.

A lot of people think solo sailors must have incredible mental strength. The reality is that we are no different from anyone else. If you compare our amazing NHS workers today, they are the ones with incredible mental resilience. This comes from working in team environments where everyone plays their part and each draws strength from the other.

2. Learn to give yourself praise

During the Vendée, I broke my rudder 400 miles west of Cape Town after colliding with a UFO. I thought my race was over. Back in the UK, my team led by Joff Brown thought otherwise. Working remotely they came up with a workable solution to keep me in the race. They gave me the strength to believe that I could make the repairs and rejoin the race. Don’t under-estimate your ability to help give others the self belief that they can get through this.

Prior to the rudder breaking, and for most of my trip down the Atlantic I was also battling a constant voice in my head that was self monitoring my performance, often criticising and rarely praising. I’ve heard that lots of athletes suffer from this (and some people who suffer from mental illness) It can have a positive effect, driving you harder, but people who are isolated also need to learn to praise their own achievements and give themselves a ‘pat on the back’. If you are supporting someone from a distance try to imagine what they might be going through. A virtual hug may be the life blood for someone cut off from the world.

3. Have empathy for others (working remotely) and check in everyday

I often joke that during the 104 day Vendée Globe, I spoke to Vikki more often than in the previous ten years of living together! This was partly because, within our team, I didn’t have the budget to employ a coach, and Vikki naturally assumed this role. As you can imagine, there are many times during a race like this when you need emotional support to get through the bad times. Having someone that can empathise with your situation is part of the battle, but there are also times when you need a ‘kick up the arse’. Learning what makes people tick and how they respond to stress is key to motivating them.

4. Focus on those things you can control

It’s important to stay in control or you will slide into the funnel of despair and the further you fall, the harder it is to climb out. Don’t worry about those things that you can’t control or you will start to feel helpless. Try and focus on what you can do, however small and reward your progress. Remember you can only eat an elephant one spoon at a time. In the final week before finishing the Vendée Globe, my engine failed and I had no way to charge the batteries to power my electronics and autopilot. I tried to get the boat on a course and balance the sails. This worked for short periods, but I was not able to get any sleep. In the light and unstable winds around the Azores high, the boat just wouldn’t stay on course. I felt helpless and out of control – I was going around in circles. Eventually, I took the sails down and got some sleep. When I awoke, I tried again, but this time I made two short lengths of bungee to hold the tiller. With a clear head, I found a solution and step by step, I reached the finish line at Les Sables D’olonne. If you find yourself spiralling out of control – sleep, eat and try again.

5. Prepare meticulously

For those about to find themselves in a period of isolation, there’s no need to be scared, but make good use of the time to get your boat in order and your head too. Be meticulous and plan for what you might need. It’s especially important to establish a routine which includes time for rest, carrying out routine maintenance and strategy.

6. Create a routine around your sleep cycle

During the Vendée Globe, I worked with a sleep specialist. I’m a morning person, so I tend to wake very early and have a clear head first thing. It’s the best time for me to do jobs that require my brain to work. Morning people also tend to be good at taking siesta in the afternoon. I sleep between 4-5 hours a day, but my longest sleep was often in the afternoon 1-2 hours.

Sleep help can reduce stress and will enable you to think clearly. I can still hear those words of advice ringing in my ears during some of the dark days of the Vendée – “When did you last sleep?” “What have you eaten today?”

7. Make your environment safe and plan for those rainy days

Create a safe environment and have enough provisions to get through the immediate few days. If that means cooking a few extra meals in readiness so that you’re not scratching around the back of your cupboards looking for something nutritious to eat during a crisis. Plan your maintenance schedules, check and double check everything is running as it should, don’t put off doing routine maintenance.

8. Don't fear isolation

Learning to be happy, content and confident alone is something everyone should do. It will help you to overcome bigger challenges and make you appreciate the things you have and love even more.

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